I’ve had quite a few people asking for tips on how to keep relationships interesting and romantic. My experience has been that the more new things my boyfriend and I try together, the closer and less restless we become.
Most people know that it isn’t beneficial to let a relationship become too routine or predictable, so I’ve come up with a few of my favorite things that Brody and I do to have fun together, bond and keep things interesting. Here they are:
1) Fantasize – Even if you aren’t a big football fan, fantasy teams are fun because you’re forced to learn about the sport (if you don’t want to totally suck!) and you become invested in how certain players perform. Create your own league that you, your boyfriend and other friends of yours can play in (because, let’s be honest, his friends most likely won’t let you take up a spot in theirs!).
I started playing last year and it was fun ’cause, not only did I have a reason to get into the games on Sunday, I had a new shared interest with my boyfriend so we could talk draft strategy, player performance, how we could improve our lineups, etc. By this season, I knew enough about the game that he actually asked me to help him with his draft for the league he and his buddies play in!
2) Be creative together – The other night I wanted to take a couple photos of a bubble bath for the post I did on a spa night at home. Brody is a great photographer (little-known fact!) and we just got a new camera, so I asked him to help. It ended up being really fun! I get pretty shy when it comes to modeling (I honestly don’t like doing it at all!), but it was comforting to have my boyfriend, who I knew wasn’t judging, on the other side of the camera. We worked together to get some fun shots and I totally felt closer to him after.
I realize not everyone wants to model in the bath, so maybe you head out to your backyard and shoot with your dog, or head to the beach or a favorite spot of the two of you. If he isn’t a photographer, it doesn’t matter! Let him try to be. OR skip the photography and check out a ceramic painting studio… anything light-hearted, creative and fun!
3) Disconnect and get cozy – A couple weeks ago Brody and I decided to spend the night out his boat, moored a few hundred yards off the beach in Malibu. We let our phones die (there’s hardly reception there anyway) and with no other forms of communication or entertainment at our fingertips, spent some quality time sipping red wine, watching the sunset and cozying up on a twin bunk for the night.
Another idea would be to grab a tent, find a quiet spot (even in your backyard if you can resist the temptation to crawl into bed half way through the night!) and have a little camp out, just the two of you — NO PHONES ALLOWED.
What do you guys think of these ideas? Have any others for me?